2.22.14 Musings from the Stew of Love

WHY is it so “hard” to see that the most precious gifts we bring to one another are our differences? Why are we so AFRAID to receive the rich expansions we offer one another?

In this amazing stew that is our human collective…WHY do we pretend that we are NOT in it… and actually confuse pretending with “reality?” Ha. (It does sound kinda funny, you have to admit.)

Of course, wearing my psychotherapist hat from a sytems perspective, I’d identify it as “socially-induced denial at the global scale.” From a psychodynamic perspective, it would be “attachment disorder resulting from narcisisstic jury.” I could go on. There are a whole lot of theories, and a whole lot of “experts” playing this game of fear, you know! All trying to do the same thing their “patients” are, which is to “pretend” that tbey are not in the soup. So blah, blah blah, as far as theories go… let’s just move on, shall we?

The point I am going for is that FEAR is such a given that it isn’t even noticed as the organizing principle behind just about EVERY form of dis–ease that EVERY member of our human collective is AFRAID OF.

We see this fear played out in the “external world” around us everyday… countries prioritize war over the precious lives that ARE their countries… politicians prioritize fighting about their differences above the well-being of the ONE country they supposedly serve… on and on, a never-ending cycle of “fighting against” that nobody ever wins.

Yet these battles waged out of fear of our differences are not about the “immorality” of politicians, or the “brutality” of countries. They are about US.

What we see going on “out there” are simply grand scale replications of what we play out in our own relationships– often, so covertly that we hide our tactics even from ourselves.

So does that make us monsters? NO! I’d say “fozen in fear” would be a more accurate description, because all of that fighting against others “out there” keeps us busy enough to avoid an even greater fear… which is finding the seeds of the very things we fight against “out there” within our own SELVES.

NOW, please do not take this as one more thing to judge about yourself as being too horrific to face! (Nor to judge any one of us for– including me, thank you very much.) Instead, recognize it as a great big call for Self–compassion.

After all, what do you think it IS that needs our love MOST– what we already love, or what we do NOT?

And how do you think that which is cast OUT of the sphere of our love WOULD act?

Speaking for myself, I KNOW how “it” acts… and “it” isn’t pretty.

Love is not something we dole out according to how we “feel.” Love is not an ephemeral, fleeting emotion.

Love is a conscious CHOICE.

When chosen, love takes us beyond our mental constructs and our fear-based triggers into the wonderful, spacious, freedom to LOVE, NO MATTER WHAT.

The reason it works is because it just is not POSSIBLE to fear and love at the same time.

I’d say that choosing love rather than fear is an extremely practical choice, then, wouldn’t you?

Oh, and btw…  you don’t think that, because I say this to you with absolute, unwaivering, conviction, that it means I “have it all down,” do you?
Not a chance.

Every moment of every day, I practice. I forget– sometimes until it hurts so bad that I have to remember to reset myself into LOVE.
And I DO have to.

I have to because NOW that I know how it FEELS to “live in love,” any other choice is a wasteland by comparison.

Besides… if I “had it all down,” what would be the point of hanging around in this wonderful stew of differences and riches with YOU, anyway?

Obviously, if we didn’t have a lot to learn from and teach one another, we wouldn’t be “mixing it up together,” would we?

So thank you from my heart, because without YOU, a special, critical, ingredient would be missing from our stew. And MAN! What a drag that would be for the rest of us….right?

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  1. Reblogged this on the celestial team and commented:

    Ah, Beloved!
    Never doubt the wisdom within You, nor how much You teach those of us iin the higher realms as You open to explore and express your awakenings to your deeper truths. We tell You that we have gained more in our own expansion through the privilege of receiving the channelings of “one of your own” as she transmiitted this post than You can imagine– yet!
    How creative, how clever, how heartfelt– how RICH You all are, in your capacity to FEEL your way into your own divinity! What a glorious and nourishing “Stew of Love” such a gift brings to your universe.
    How we love YOU! Always and in All Ways– the celestial team

  2. Katie

     /  February 24, 2014

    Loved reading this today! Thanks Judith…

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